Posted by: Zephiel
Written by: Swiss Wenger
URL: http://zildjianstories.blogspot.com/
A must read article.
This article might help you understand the true meaning of
friendship. Marami sa atin ang nahihirapang i-decipher ang word na yon so,
naisip ko na baka makatulong ito sa inyo kaya pinost ko ito dito sa blog ko. Sana magustohan niyo ito mga paps.
Buy some time to read this at baka may mapulot kayong aral
dito mga paps. Hehehe Good luck nalang sa inyo at sana ay magustohan niyo ang
laman nito. :D :D :D
TRUE FRIENDSHIP
It is a wonderful thing to live in
a context of friends who provide us with stimulus, encouragement and
challenge. This is the heart of
community, for in such a context we can serve and be served and grow in our
giftedness and responsibility.
But there
is a possible downside to this scenario.
Within the context of friends, we can also feel the pressure of their
expectations.
There is nothing wrong with our
friends knowing our strong points. And equally there is nothing wrong with our
serving in ways that are consistent with our recognized abilities. But there is something wrong with being put
in a box and with not being able to acknowledge that we are developing
different priorities or concerns or to admit that our resources have run dry.
Hence, we may sometimes feel that
we were slowly becoming a prisoner of people’s expectations instead of a man
liberated by divine promises. Within the
community of friends we need to guard the gift of individual freedom so that we
can all continue to grow beyond the expectations of others.
True friendship is not only built
on the busy round of continually doing things for each other. Such seemingly good activity may in fact
exhaust the relationship. The cycle of
giving because we have first received can become a legalistic form of
reciprocity.
Nor is true friendship built on the
busy round of much-talking and constant self-disclosure. The attempt to build friendship in this way
may be more a reflection of insecurity than of trust.
The road to friendship is somewhat
different. While it certainly involves
giving and receiving and open sharing, it also involves a respect for
boundaries. Intimate relationships that
do not create free space for the other can become suffocating
relationships. We may feel at times the
desire to be silent with our friends.
Not every event has to be told, not every idea has to be exchanged.
It is in the silences as much as in
the conversations that friendship can be built.
Friendship should incorporate solitude as much as sharing and common
activity. Friendship should not always
exist in what we do for each other. It
is also what we are for each other, even when we are not doing anything.