Monday, February 20, 2012

True Friendship



Posted by: Zephiel
Written by: Swiss Wenger
URL: http://zildjianstories.blogspot.com/



A must read article.


This article might help you understand the true meaning of friendship. Marami sa atin ang nahihirapang i-decipher ang word na yon so, naisip ko na baka makatulong ito sa inyo kaya pinost ko ito dito sa blog ko. Sana magustohan niyo ito mga paps.


Buy some time to read this at baka may mapulot kayong aral dito mga paps. Hehehe Good luck nalang sa inyo at sana ay magustohan niyo ang laman nito. :D :D :D







TRUE FRIENDSHIP



It is a wonderful thing to live in a context of friends who provide us with stimulus, encouragement and challenge.  This is the heart of community, for in such a context we can serve and be served and grow in our giftedness and responsibility.


            But there is a possible downside to this scenario.  Within the context of friends, we can also feel the pressure of their expectations.

           
There is nothing wrong with our friends knowing our strong points. And equally there is nothing wrong with our serving in ways that are consistent with our recognized abilities.  But there is something wrong with being put in a box and with not being able to acknowledge that we are developing different priorities or concerns or to admit that our resources have run dry.

           
Hence, we may sometimes feel that we were slowly becoming a prisoner of people’s expectations instead of a man liberated by divine promises.  Within the community of friends we need to guard the gift of individual freedom so that we can all continue to grow beyond the expectations of others.

           
True friendship is not only built on the busy round of continually doing things for each other.  Such seemingly good activity may in fact exhaust the relationship.  The cycle of giving because we have first received can become a legalistic form of reciprocity.

           
Nor is true friendship built on the busy round of much-talking and constant self-disclosure.  The attempt to build friendship in this way may be more a reflection of insecurity than of trust.

          
 The road to friendship is somewhat different.  While it certainly involves giving and receiving and open sharing, it also involves a respect for boundaries.  Intimate relationships that do not create free space for the other can become suffocating relationships.  We may feel at times the desire to be silent with our friends.  Not every event has to be told, not every idea has to be exchanged.

           
It is in the silences as much as in the conversations that friendship can be built.  Friendship should incorporate solitude as much as sharing and common activity.  Friendship should not always exist in what we do for each other.  It is also what we are for each other, even when we are not doing anything.

23 comments:

Anonymous said...

well said mr. swiss

Anonymous said...

bravo

Anonymous said...

:( iyak nmn aq dito i realize something is wrong, i often cross the boundaries of my friends hays.. eye opener!
-yume

Anonymous said...

well said swiss

TlgaZ said...

I just wanna quote the statement in this article which for me is an eye opener of what is friendship.." While it certainly involves giving and receiving and opening sharing, it also involves a respect for boundaries"..

I know that it is a long journey to find the true essence of friendship especially today. But I am just happy and determine to look for it coz I found a true example of what it is despite of the fact that these sets of people are just connected at first digitally. Now, I am honored and privileged that God give me this opportunity to witness what that word really is..

To Mr. Swiss, you're awesome man..(kht inubos mu ang konting deposited vocabulary ko okay lng coz it's definitely the best)

Now, I can only spell the word the Best as simply..
S - S
W - W
I - I
S - S
S - S

fight lng ng fight...

Unknown said...

That's okey Yume. the intention of the article was not for the reader to cry in the first place. You're still young. In time you will learn your lessons in life from much gained experience. Just keep cool and enjoy the gift of life and gift of friendship. Stay well buddy! ;-)

Unknown said...

Thank you very much titser for such heartwarming feedback. Truly, life is one long journey. I firmly believe that the best thing in life aren't things. If I may quote Antoine de Saint-Exupery, he said "There is no hope of joy except in human relations."Hence, it is our friends who are our companions who inspire us and help us realize the best that we can be. they lift us from our feet when we forget to fly. After all, it's the little things that matter, that add up in the end, with the priceless thrilling magic found only in a friend. BE ONE!!!

--makki-- said...

True Friends takes you to who you are and what you are. they are hard to find but luckily i have.

:)

Anonymous said...

nice article mr. author.

nice insight about friendship also to mr. swiss.
truly this blog has provided more than what it was intended for ( i assume only that it is for posting stories of the author). now i see it as a venue also of readers expressing their views/opinions that are also insightful to others.

thanks to the author and readers who shares their wisdom on certain topics.

---januard

Anonymous said...

natuwa nmn aq dito hehe thanks mr. swiss :)

TlgaZ said...

Swiss, kht sa reply pinapadugo mu pa rin utak ko..hehehe..

Thank you because you appreciate what I say and another million thanks because this is one of best artworks and inspiration for me..

Keep Believing!!!

Anonymous said...

Clap Clap Clap Conzul!

Conzul sensya at d p kc ako nkkrecover s massive blood loss last fri, kya in tym, maiintindihan k rn yn! hihihi

Bsta ang alam k, mganda at positibo ung artikulo m. hihihihi

-ASD-

Unknown said...

Am glad for you Makki for you have found true friends as your allies. Hope everyone is as lucky as you are! Indeed, our friends are our companions in this journey called life. They help us explore all the possibilities to become the best that we can be, and bear with us even when we make fools of ourselves and still accept us despite everything. Warm regards!

Unknown said...

Thank you for the time reading the article and for the appreciation Januard! It was just an inspiration that the author of the blog thought of sharing the said article in the light that it may be of some help to his readers or those trying to make and meet friends here in this digital forum like this. Kudos to Zeph for opening such a venue where we could express and share not just our stories but insights as well pertaining to different life issues we face in our daily lives. More power to all!!!

Anonymous said...

wewwww...!!!duguan..thanks mr. swiss for the wonderful insight, it truly gives us the real deal about what friendship is all about. Now I realize that I am just too afraid to attached myself to others that limits myself in meeting and finding new friends-true friends having the thought that I might be incapable of sharing everything to them..

:) Mr. Z thank you for creating a venue that truly inspires us your readers.

-cham-

Anonymous said...

:D... thanks po.ang ganda po ng inyong pananaw.

-rm-

Zildjian said...

Tagalog naman sa akin kasi nosebleed ako hahahahaha!!!



Walang anu man Januard naisip ko lang na makakatulong to sa mga readers ko specially kasi sa ating mga pinoy napakalaking issue ang makahanap ng tunay na kaibigan without even knowing the real meaning of true friendship.. hehehehe :D KUDOS KAY SWISS :D

Zildjian said...

Walang problema ChamCham masaya ako na nagustohan mo ang article na to.. :D

Unknown said...

Tsalamat sa iyong makabagbag damdaming komento Drew ... hehehe! Punta ka Red Cross para replenish nila ung matinding blood loss mong naranasan ... ehehehe! Tama yon, dapat positibo lang tayo palagi para naman positibo rin ang dumating sa buhay natin. Ingat ka lagi at sa muli maraming salamat kaibigan! ;-)

Unknown said...

LOL Cham! Thanks as well for taking time to read the article above! Am glad that through it you had such an insightful realization within yourself! Just remember, the only way to fight and win an enemy is to know the enemy. Since you already knew the enemy, I guess it is about time for you to face it squarely and win the battle, that you may in the end enjoy the beauty of true friendship. No man is an island after all! Thanks again and keep cool! So much awaits for you and for everyone! Just be ready for Life's surprises! Stay well! ;-)

Unknown said...

Maraming salamat sa iyo RM! Iyan din ang paanyaya sa ating lahat. Maging positibo ang ating pananaw sa mga bagay-bagay na darating sa buhay natin, upang nang sa ganoon ay malampasan natin ang anumang unos na maga darating. Ingat ka lagi at Mabuhay ka! ;-)

Anonymous said...

Nku Conzul, ngpunta ako s PNRC, at nghanap ng blood type AB, ang sbi b nmn s akin, ubos n raw ang IV-type bag nung blood type k, mrn dw cla, ung ibang klaseng packaging, zesto-type, inumin k n lng dw! hihihi

kidding aside, to sum it up, true friendship scales down to HURTS; happiness, understanding, respect, trust and space. the more hurts we experienced and shared, the stronger the foundation we can build. but sometimes, hurts can make or break us. it depends on how we handle such. I thank you. hahaha

Anonymous said...

waaaaaaaaah grabe kkhya... ngaun k lng npansn! hahaha bkt un b ang ntype ko!? hahaha conzul alyas zulzul alyas swisssikko at zuper z, pkipalitan nmn! waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah d k msbi kung anu un at mhhalata agad! kkhya tlga!!!!! wagas n pgkkmali! bobo nmn!!!waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaH

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